Our kids don't go to school. Our kids don't have to ask to use the can. Our kids don't get told they can't leave the room and must pee in a corner. Fergus chooses, sometimes, to have "private time" in the corner... but he wears a diaper for this (and not one of those "i'm a crazy astronaut driving 2,000 miles without getting out of the car" ones). Here's the exaggerated example.